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The Necessity of Detachment

How often do you get to the end of your day and feel completely exhausted and drained?

I talk to many people who feel this way and much of it is because they are spending their energy on things they don’t even want.

Notice I used the word “spending.”

Think of your energy as like a savings account. Every day, you wake up with a new bank of energy and what you focus on during the day is how you’re choosing to spend it. Every thought you think, every emotion you feel is a choice for how you spend your energy.

When you accept that whatever you focus on grows stronger and you become aware that where you put your focus are ways you are spending your energy, you start to become mindful if those paths are benefiting you or not. If they are not benefiting you, why continue spending your energy that way?

For generations, many people start their day reading or watching the news. If you notice, there is very little good news in the news and as a result, most feel despondent, angry or frustrated after doing so. We enmesh ourselves in the lives of others, whether it be politicians, athletes or celebrities and our emotions are often tied to what those people are experiencing.

If we can accept that what all of us are manifesting in our outer worlds a reflection of what is going on in our inner worlds; primarily our subconscious, then why would we want to spend our energy connected to the lives of people who are manifesting misery in their own lives?

To do so is to energetically connect ourselves to those people’s anger, frustration and disappointment.

It may feel normal to do so because others are doing it, but does it empower you? Does it help you to create what you want in your own life?

If you are spending your energy connected to the frustrations of others, is it any wonder that you arrive at the end of the day exhausted?

I encourage you to do this exercise:

1.       Draw a circle with your name in the middle on a piece of paper.

2.       Around this circle, draw smaller circles and label each for where your focus is on a daily basis, even if it’s only a few times a week.

3.       Draw a line out from your circle to each of these others.

4.       Write out next to each line whether that connection is empowering or disempowering you.

If you exhibit emotional honesty when you conduct this exercise, you’ll be amazed at how many different areas of your life you are spending energy that ultimately isn’t benefiting you.

The next step is to pick one or two lines and decide what could you do with that time and energy that would be more productive in your life?

As you implement these changes and they take hold in your life, you can then conduct this exercise again. As you start to move your life from spending energy in disempowering ways to empowering ways, you may find that some of the other areas change automatically.

The goal is to continually improve your life vs. changing to change it overnight which can be both uncomfortable and often result in falling back into the comfortable, but uncomfortable habits.

Drop me a line and let me know what you discovered with this exercise and how it’s benefited you!




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Jeff Scholl is a Certified Spiritual Life Coach through Holistic Learning Centers and a Board-Certified Holistic Health Practitioner through the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.




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