Many people feel uncertain about starting something like Spiritual Life Coaching because they simply don’t understand how it works.
So I’m going to explain that today.
The first thing to understand is that all of my coaching is done over the phone. I literally have had clients all over the country (and world) that I have never met, but for whom I have deep personal feelings because of the emotional bond we have created.
Everything is done via teleconference and occasionally Zoom to share materials to work on together...even if I have clients that live in the same area. I have been through the same process I am now teaching and have also experienced traditional counseling.
With traditional counseling, I had to go to someone’s office and no matter how neutral I wanted to be, my mind was evaluating things from the time I walked in the door. I analyzed how nice the office was, how many certificates the therapist had on their walls, how organized they seemed to be...so much of it having nothing to do with them being able to help me work through my issues.
I also was conscious to how I looked the days I went to their office, did I spill coffee on me that morning...fighting traffic on the way there, was I going to be late...all extra thoughts and emotions that I carried into session with me, but had no relation to what I was actually there to do.
So I use teleconferences to eliminate any judgments the client could have about me or themselves. There is no traffic to fight, no gas to buy, nothing but the vibrational connection between a client and your coach as we work together.
I use a spiritual textbook in all of my work called “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self.”
Imagine a person spending twenty-five years collecting and organizing spiritual teachings and truths into a textbook to create a step-by-step process to help a person make the shift from intellectual knowing (enlightenment) to actually being able to apply that knowledge as the conscious creator of their lives (empowerment).
This is what my teacher, Hu Dalconzo spent 25 years doing.
If you have been a spiritual sampler for very long, you will recognize much of the work by authors such as Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Ram Dass, Pema Chodron, A Course in Miracles, Eckhart Tolle, Gary Zukav, Marianne Williamson, Wayne Dyer and about 45 others.
This book provides the foundation of knowledge for whatever I cover with a client regardless of what their issues are.
In the first session, I take a Case History of the client and lead them through a series of questions to narrow down from a field of 80 different areas which 3 are having the most dramatic influence in their life.
Many people come away from this session (as I did) with a new sense of awareness of how much emotional baggage they are carrying around, but have simply not been aware of it.
I facilitate the second session once the client has ordered and received their book. In this session, I give them an overview of the work...so they can feel the power of starting to be able to apply so much of what they have already learned and realize that someone has created a course to really be able to take clinically proven steps to move from that intellectual knowing to a conscious awareness of being.
Starting with the very first session and after every session thereafter, there is homework. Many clients are resist doing the homework, but the homework is what helps us start to move from enlightenment to empowerment. Because without actually doing anything, what have you really changed?
If you are going to be a tennis pro, you can expect to show up to the court and study about tennis fundamentals before you ever hit a ball, but eventually you are going to hit balls and you are going to hit a lot of balls. You are going to have to show up to the court every day and spend hours hitting balls.
So conversely if you are going to be Self-Mastered, you have to practice doing that. You will have to overcome the many excuses your ego mind will come up with for why you cannot find the 30 minutes a day required to practice the exercises you will be assigned.
The next few sessions are spent finding out what the client knows and doesn’t know about the spiritual fundamentals required on this journey. We discuss them and I ensure the client understands them before we move on. And of course, there are exercises so the client can demonstrate their understanding. In these sessions I also help the client peel away some layers on those issues we discovered in the first session so they can start to understand where they come from and how they are showing up in their lives.
About four or five sessions in when we have collected all of the information , I have one session with the client that I call “The Roadmap Session.” In this session, I show the client all of the information they have given me all in one place and lay out a plan for how we are going to work through their issues.
And then I give the client all of this information so that they have it.
Think about how many times you’ve gone to the doctor and see them writing things in their files. Do you ever wonder what they’re writing? Do you ever want to take a copy of your medical file home...or your X-rays?
This is essentially what I do. I am going to ask you a lot of questions and break down all of that information to the essence of what is really happening, show you what kinds of exercises we’re going to use to address it and then show you the plan.
What a client sees in this session is that it is not “I”, but they who have provided all of the information and that I have an action plan tailored specifically for them.
What follows in the series of sessions after the Roadmap Session is different for every client. It is based on what they share about their life and the obstacles that they face again and again.
In addition to the book, I have over 150 clinically proven exercises to choose from...to help each client heal their resistances initially towards realizing that they are a spiritual being having a human experience...but later to actually being able to live their lives from that perspective.
I am currently accepting new clients as many of my clients have finished the course and now have a sustainable spiritual practice...because you see, it is my role to “teach you how to fish...not to give you fish.”
My mission is not to become anyone’s “guru” and I will never allow that to happen. That can only happen if I am giving you information and you are not doing the work. If you do the work, you will awaken to who and what you are.
What this course has done for me is quite amazing when I look back at how far I’ve come and yet, I am still learning, still growing. My teacher taught me that I’m either going to be “green and growing or ripe and rotting.”
Everyone gets stuck in their ruts from time to time, but I feel that all of us are being pushed out of our comfort zones right now and this is one way, one proven way to heal much of what ails us.
I found my true calling in this world. I had been studying spiritual topics for 16 years before finding this course and so now in finding my dharmic purpose for living, I am able to share all that I have learned to help others heal their lives and find the answers to their questions.
What my client base tells me they experience is that they are now able to understand why certain people have come into their lives, why certain events have happened, how their perceptions of all of this have contributed to their ability to feel safe, sane and secure in the world...and ultimately how they learned to first change their perceptions and their reality as a result.
I know it almost sounds a little “pie in the sky” but this is where we are in our evolution right now. This is where all of the teachers who have spent their lives sharing this information has brought us. This is what they have been saying all along....that “we can create anything we can imagine and believe”...and that “we are gods and we know it not.”
As Marianne Williamson wrote in “A Return to Love,”
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine like children do.
We are meant to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It’s not in some of us; It’s it all of us!
And as we let our light shine, we unconditionally give others permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
I hope you’ll join me on your journey into the Light of your being.
It has been proven for thousands of clients already. It can work for you.
Jeff Scholl is a Certified Spiritual Life Coach through Holistic Learning Centers and a Board-Certified Holistic Health Practitioner through the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.