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Do You Understand the Words Coming Out of Your Mouth?

Updated: Aug 31, 2023

When I work with clients, I ask a lot of questions. What I am mainly seeking is to hear the story they are telling the world about their life. My goal is to get them to hear the words coming out of their mouths and to help them understand how those words are creating their lives.

In my last post, I discussed the concept that when we incarnate into this life, we don’t necessarily come in as a blank slate. We come in with an agenda; a play if you will, with the actors chosen and an opportunity to experience different sides of a situation than our soul has experienced before…or possibly the same experience and an opportunity to make a different choice.

What we think about all of that and what story we tell the world matters.

The key thing that most clients misunderstand is I can’t fix their lives. When any client seeks to have a coach or counselor “fix” them; that’s a disempowering relationship. It reaffirms the signal to the client’s subconscious that they are not “at cause” in their lives and nothing could be further from the truth.

You ARE at cause in your life; much more than you realize. My goal is to empower people, so they understand how they are perpetuating their lives with the words coming out of their mouths daily and the thoughts running like an endless loop stream through their minds.

There are many methods out there and many teachers across the planet who are helping people take control of their lives. Anyone who tells you that this is “THE WAY” and that their way is better or more effective than another way is misguided and operating at least partially from fear or their own ego.

As I learned in a Hindu proverb, “All rivers lead to the same ocean.”

You have to find the way that speaks to you, but not necessarily the way you feel comfortable with because if you feel comfortable, you are not being pushed to the depths needed to effect real change in your life.

The change you must go through is much like the metamorphosis that a caterpillar goes through to become a butterfly.

To the outside observer, the process looks difficult and it probably feels like a tremendous struggle for the tiny being going through this transformation; but it is necessary to become what it is.

For you to become what you are, you must unlearn what you thought you knew about how the world works. Because once you do learn how it works, there is no going back to ignorant bliss…even if it wasn’t all that blissful.

Your words…matter; which means your words become matter…experiences. There is a delay and not everything you say instantly pops into your existence. If it did, it would create disaster in your life…because how many times have you said the opposite of what you wanted to happen?

I’ll give you an example. In 2021, I got COVID for the first time. I was fortunate not to have the respiratory symptoms so many others did, but I did get the extreme fatigue and intense body aches. It was a struggle to get out of bed and I had about a week where I hurt so intensely that I asked God to let me pass if this was going to last much longer.

If I manifested everything I said, I wouldn’t be here right now. If I had focused on that outcome however like it was a burning desire and I had given up, I would have manifested it.

Clients often tell me that they are afraid to take responsibility for their lives, because of all the mistakes they have made. This is normal. But all of those “mistakes” were made from a place of unknowing and we have to forgive ourselves for not knowing what we didn’t know at the time.

It is also normal to feel that facing the pain from all those mistakes will be too much, too overwhelming…but just like the butterfly, if you trust the process, you will be fine and flying in no time.

The words coming out of your mouth and flowing through your mind are manifesting your life, even if what you are experiencing is exactly the opposite of what you want.

As Abraham-Hicks says, “You have to start telling the story (of your life) the way you want it to be, not the way it is.”

It will feel like you’re lying to yourself at first. But ask yourself, which lie you would rather believe…the lie that you are helpless in life and that the world is against you? Or would you rather start telling yourself something that feels uncomfortable at first, but creates the experience you most desire?

The reason it feels uncomfortable is really due to another law in physics, asserted by Wolfgang Pauli, that has been paraphrased as “no two things can occupy the same space at the same time.”

When you start thinking or saying a new thought that conflicts with an unconscious belief, you rub up against that belief and the negatively charged energy which holds it in place. The source of your discomfort then is the very energy you need to release to change your experience and when understood from this perspective is actually confirmation that you are working to change a paradigm that isn’t serving you. You are unconsciously, involuntarily manifesting experiences that match the uncomfortable energy you feel. To this point, you have collected all of the evidence from these manifested experiences as proof of the limitation in your life.

In reality, it is just the reflection of the energy and belief you carry.

Open your journal and answer these questions:

1. Pick one area in your life you want to manifest differently. What is the story you tell yourself and others about it and how long have you been telling that story?

2. Let’s do an exercise called a “See, Hear, Feel.” Write out a paragraph of the best version you can imagine of this topic for what you would like to see happening in your life. Then write a paragraph for what you hear. What do you hear yourself telling others and what do you hear them saying to you? Then write a paragraph for what you feel.

If this is the first time you’ve done anything like this, you may want to start with feelings like hope, optimism or relief as feelings like freedom, joy or miraculous may be too big of a leap in vibration. But if you can feel that, reach for it!

Read the SHF out loud first thing in the morning and last thing before you go to bed at night with as much positive feeling as possible and commit to doing that for at least 30 days.

3. After doing this for 30 days, note what changes you experienced in your life and write about it in your journal.



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Jeff Scholl is a Certified Spiritual Life Coach through Holistic Learning Centers and a Board-Certified Holistic Health Practitioner through the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.


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